This concept is one I learned from one of my best friends, who also happens to be my sister in law, Emily. She once told me how she had this inner struggle of her JLO vs granola and I couldn’t believe how much it resonated with me, and I adopted it as my own. So here it is.
There is a part of me that wants all things glamorous, and this is my JLO. I want a big house with a spa like master bathroom, gourmet kitchen, my own office, beautiful decks overlooking amazing views and a large open living area. I want a brand new van that smells new and rides like a dream. I want cute clothes that make me feel like a babe, and lots of them. I want eyelash extensions. I want a manicure, pedicure and massage every week.
I also have a part of me that wants all things granola. I want to live in a tiny house with my family that sits on a farm where we live off the land. I want to drive a Westfalia camper (why do these only seat 5 people!?) and go on road trips and camping with the kids. I want to live completely debt free. I don’t want to wear makeup. I don’t want a cell phone. I want to travel around the world as a family and have few worldly possessions.
This battle is real. And this battle inside of me wants two completely different things. I think a lot of us are like this but until now, had no way to describe this inner struggle. I tend not to live on the extreme with either of these… but I do fall more naturally towards the granola category, thanks to Zach who was born to be a minimalist. While I want the fancier things in life, I also have a realistic view on how my life can go. I can either work really hard for a really long time to get all the material things I want. Or, we can buy less, save more and retire sooner. No matter how tempting it is to get weekly massages (or even monthly!) I choose to work towards a place in life where Zach can leave his day job and we can spend more time as a family. JLO, I’m sorry, I can’t be faithful to you.